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#WHD Hijab Diaries: Why I Prefer to Wear Hijab


As a hijabi (one that wears headscarf or hijab), I often get asked by non-Muslims why I wear this piece of cloth on my head. Don't I have hair? Or is my hair too ugly so I prefer to hide it? Aren't I feeling hot in it? Is it heavy? Am I being pushed to wear the hijab?

Sometimes, I feel disobliged to explain my choices to people. However, as I learned more and more about Islam, I felt that it is my duty to make them understand the beauty and wisdom behind the hijab.

My hijab story dates back to 1995-1996 when I used to be fascinated by my mom's headscarves. In fact, I wear her hijab. At the end of the day, my parents bought me kiddie hijabs. From then on, I have been a hijabi all my life. Although, as I pointed out in my blogpost here, I had a lot of struggles with the hijab, especially during my college days.

I've had my fair share of struggles and hardships with the hijab. But they do not include oppression or being pushed to wear the hijab by my parents or my friends. When I wear it, it is my sole choice. It is my own perspective that told me there is a need to cover myself up.

So instead of being asked if I was pushed into wearing it, I'd rather hear someone ask me the reason why I prefer to wear the hijab.
Hijab, for me, is more than just a piece of cloth. It is an ideology that I dove into. It is not just a physical covering that I wear to conceal my body. Rather, it comes with a complete package. When I wear the hijab, I do not only feel upheld. There is a force within me that makes me a better person. It empowers me to be better. It gives me the power to have a control not just over my body, but my heart and mind, too.

When I wear the hijab, I am in my, if-not-best, better version of myself. I refrain from doing bad things. It is just like a filter that helps me drop my bad deeds. And that matters a lot to me.

Wanting to be constantly stay with the right path has always been my goal in life. I am not like most people who would love to do something crazy and wild even once in their life. Because they think that this is the only life they get. Most people call me reserved, but I would rather be that person than regret it in the next life.

Hijab gives me just what I needed. I am not compelled to wear it. In fact, it is I who saw the need for it. And I am not giving it up.

It is a constant battle to wear the right clothes and hijab. And there are people who criticizes me for the way that I wear mine. What they don't realize is that the outside appearance that the hijab gives off is just the peak of an iceberg of what it really means and does to my being.

I can't speak on behalf of the millions of hijabis around the world. But one thing is for sure, a lot of us chose hijab for all the good things it brings with it, especially that it is a form of worship to our Dearest Almighty, Allah SWT.

I am not compelled to wear it. It's just that I feel I am a better version of myself when I wear it.

Here are some similar blog posts about wearing the hijab:


This post is part of the Lilpink Hijab Diaries, which is a series of posts on this blog that talks about hijab, its beauty and wisdom. This is to support the cause that calls on non-hijabis to wear the hijab for a day every 1st of February of each year, World Hijab Day that brings awareness of what it feels like to wear the headscarf.

Kai Darul is one of the Philippine Ambassadors of World Hijab Day, together with Azizah Talusan (, Mara Biruar (, Caroline Lovely and Congresswoman Sitti Djalia Hataman.


  1. I also wear hijab, here in Indonesia we don't have any question about why we wear hijab. I really adore you! ♥

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    1. aww. you are so lucky!

      thank you! virtual hugs!

  2. Haha, I wear hijabs on most days. For me, wearing hijab is normal since I'm from Brunei and hijabis are normalized. I'm not compelled to wear it, nor am I forced. It's just something I wear without much thought. To each their own <3

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  3. I wear the hijab, as it is a commandment from Allaah. I feel comfortable and confident, and that is a blessing in itsself.

  4. Masha'Allah,i adore you :)

  5. Your posts addresses so many points beautifully. :)

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  6. I love the hijaab because it gives me an identitt, completes me and brings meclose to The Creator.

  7. Hijab is a way of life, a fashion statement, a movement and so much more :). It's good to that you're also at peace wearing it. Masha'Allah.

  8. It was a good read. Even I was the victim of being questioned this when I started doing hijab and I felt really irritated.

    Fatima -

  9. Thanks for sharing Kai, you are a Mujahida(A warrior) . Keep it up and may Allah put barakah.
    Eat Healthy Stay Healthy :)

    Myda Tahir

  10. Such an insporational post! I don't wear hijab (yet), but love reading other sisters' stories for motivation :)

  11. Thank you for sharing your experience. May Allah SWA reward you.

  12. thank you for sharing your experience! May ALLAH SWA reward you, inshallah.

  13. Lovely read mA. As long as we realize we are dressing modestly/wearing hijab for the sake of Allah, everything else seems to fall in place.

  14. I am a hijabi since the age of 12. But Alhumdulillah, nobody has ever asked me why i was wearing hijab.

  15. Beautifully written, hijab is more than a piece of cloth indeed.

    And its wisdom is never ending especially in our world today.

    Alhamdulillah for being a Muslimah and being blessed with this lovely gift of hijab.

  16. This was really interesting to read. To be honest I don't know anyone who wears a hijab personally, but I've always been wondering why some women are doing it voluntarily. Now I have a better understanding of your tradition :)

  17. I wear full jilbab because Allah has commanded it for the muslim women. I cannot see myself without it...ever. Al hamdulillah i learned to love & embrace it ma sha Allah. Thank you for sharing your story.

  18. Its funny how people tend to ask us all the wrong questions. If only they tried to ask the right ones and accepted the answere we gave them.

  19. I sometimes get fed up of explaining why I wear it which is why I started the hijab series on my many still think we are forced to wear it!

  20. Lovely piece of article. I love hearing stories from different sisters about Hijab. Hijab is very powerful , one cannot even imagine.

  21. MashaAllah you started wearing hijab since you were a kid, and I just started almost 2 years ago. But Alhamdulillah, I'm already wearing it and realizing the true importance of it. This is a really nice and well written blogpost, I love it.
    Love, Fads

  22. Loved reading your hijab story.These stories are very inspiring to me :1 I love your blog makeover by the way it's so pink and cute!!! everthing I like haha


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